A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4
As a husband of twenty-eight years and those to a godly mother of two sons, I must admit that with every new day, this proverb cast a sweet smelling savor of truth upon the union that I have enjoyed with my lovely wife. She truly is a precious crown.
We are living in very trying times when it comes to the stability of marriage in America. Latest statistics show the divorce rate to be at 50%. One out of every two marriages are statistically ending in divorce. If we consider that when the unions of men and women that cohabit outside the boundaries of marriage, decide to go their separate ways, the 1 in 2 would clearly be much higher.
What may be more disturbing is the findings reveal that “the children of divorced parents are prone to divorcing 4 times more than the children of couples who are not divorced.” source: www.about divorce.org What we learn from this statistics is that when the marriage between a man and a woman crumbles and the family splits, the same fruit is often found in the marriages of their children.
I was reading another artilce posted on Missouri Families . org web site that made the following statement below.
The divorce rate has been climbing in every industrialized country in the world. There are two significant factors affecting the rising divorce rate in the United States and elsewhere: (1) men and women are less in need of each other for economic survival, and (2) gains made in birth control allow men and women to separate sexual activity from having children.
Now I am no expert and cannot deny that both of the above factors are contributors to the high divorce rate that we are seeing in America, but I see a much larger issue and it is paramount in terms of foundation with not only regard to the marriage and family but every facet of life, and that is the fact that Jesus Christ is not the head of the household as God designed.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:22-33
Yes, I can hear the skeptics, “the divorce rate is just as high among people that go to church”, and this statement is true. Sad, but true.
The first thing that I would like for us to consider is that everyone that goes to church does NOT know the Lord. If one does not have a personal relationship with Christ, then they are not recipients of His Spirit, therefore He cannot and will not be the leader of ones home.
The second point, is just because one has a personal relationship with Christ and endowed with His Spirit, does not necessarily guarantee a submissive will to that Spirit. Both the husband and wife have a responsibility to be obedient to the above text found in Ephesians, if they don’t there is no guarantee that the marriage will be sustained. You can rest assure of this fact, that a marriage (between and man and a woman… that is the only marriage approved of God) that builds this holy union upon this Biblical principle will endure. It will stand even through the storms of life.
malachi
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I hate divorce, but sometimes it is better, whan live together. Thank you for article.
Thank you DivorcedMan for visiting and taking the time to read ‘For The Proverbial Palate’. I came from a home that was separated by divorce. My parents were divorced when I was 12 years old at that in 1967. The affects of divorce seems to permeate the life of those involved years after the decision to break up is made.
As to your comment “sometimes it (divorse) is better, than to live together”, I can not disagree with your thought. To this point it makes me even more grateful for my wife of 28 years. When you think of what the scripture teaches about marriage, it is next to impossible for ‘the two to become one’ without some intervening influence, and for my marriage that was Jesus Christ, to which I am so thankful. Neither my wife nor I knew Christ as our Lord when we first were married, but in retrospect it has been the catalyst in our marriage.
I had four siblings, two brothers and two sisters. Both of my sisters are divorced and at some time since their divorce have lived with men that they are not married to. So they were victims of the above statistics. Neither of them have a walk with Christ but I love the both of the dearly.
The purpose of the article was not to lambaste those who have gone through divorce but to simply say that when Christ becomes the Lord of a marriage and a home the success of the both are unyielding.
Once again, thanks for stopping by and please come back anytime.
Peace my friend.
malachi